A powerful person has stable emotions and always remains calm and composed. How can this be achieved? First, you need to maintain an outward appearance of calmness. Even when you are criticized, blamed, or treated unfairly, being eager to defend yourself or becoming angry will only make you more passive. These extreme reactions indicate that to some extent, you actually agree with the other person’s viewpoint. If you think the other person is talking nonsense, you wouldn’t have any reaction at all, right? To achieve outward calmness, you first need to press the pause button. I’ll share a simple method with you: three words, deep breath. Take a few deep breaths to stabilize your emotions. When people encounter unexpected situations or feel threatened, the amygdala in the brain will only allow two responses: fight or flight, which is known in psychology as the fight-or-flight response. What does deep breathing do? It provides a buffer for your brain, allowing you to face the situation rationally. When the other person’s emotions are at a peak, do not confront them. I’ll say it again, do not confront them. This is not weakness; it is showing vulnerability. Showing vulnerability does not equal weakness; it allows you to handle conflicts maturely. Then, wait until both parties are no longer agitated before addressing the issue at hand. Secondly, you need to achieve true inner calmness. You must possess a confidence that radiates from within. Believe in your abilities, believe that you deserve respect and fair treatment, and always make choices that are most beneficial to yourself. I’ll tell you, being emotional is of no help at all; it only brings negative effects. People with unstable emotions often see themselves as victims, right? They will desperately resist, while a calm and composed person is truly a mature and confident individual who can remain unruffled and possess a steady strength no matter what happens.
