The costs of life mainly come from two aspects: one is self-exploration, and the other is mental energy drain. Among these, there is a type of energy drain known as rumination. Rumination involves repeatedly thinking about past events, feeling regret, frustration, and self-blame, and always believing that if given another chance, one could do better and be more satisfied. This kind of thinking can lead to severe mental energy drain.
In fact, our ancestors have many pieces of wisdom that can counteract this kind of energy drain, such as living in the moment, letting go, and embracing a bit of confusion. If you often find yourself ruminating over the same thing in life, you need to start being aware of yourself and learn to live in the present.
Often, pressure comes from not knowing how to handle various relationships. First, you may not know how to deal with your relationship with yourself, always feeling conflicted, self-blaming, or self-absorbed. Second, interpersonal relationship issues can also leave you at a loss, unsure of how to organize, communicate, and interact, or how to prioritize matters.
To make progress, you must first manage your relationships. The core of managing relationships is to reconcile with yourself, making your relationship with yourself harmonious and peaceful. In this way, when dealing with interpersonal relationships, your energy will significantly increase.
While interpersonal relationships are important, they are influenced by your early family environment, upbringing, and the expectations of authority figures, forming the way you interact with the world and others. We call this pattern of interaction a mental model.
